Emotional Intelligence January 11, 2011Posted by izzyholt in Motivation, Self Help.
If we only knew the best way to handle all situations in our life; our life would be much more satisfying and we certainly would be known as having a bit of emotional intelligence. With that said, sadly, we do not know all there is to know about being able to master all things; period, but if we choose we can teach ourselves to be better equipped to handle stressed situations more proficiently and without chaos.
There are however, many people who are as calm as a cucumber in heated events in the workplace and elsewhere. They simply do not get alarmed, scream and yell or throw up their hand and start blaming; when something goes wrong. These are the people who seem to know that the best way to handle a stressful situation is to remain, coherent, and in tune with how to resolve the issue. It seems they have taught themselves that getting upset and pounding on a co-worker or employee, is absolutely out of line and doesn’t resolve anything. They know that their behavior sets the tone for the entire group, and if they are calm and show resolve; others will also. This indicates these minority of people, basically are in the know how of managing people; they know that being a leader requires one to be just that, a leader.
Emotional Intelligence can be explained this way: A person who has figured out who they are. They are not out to prove who they are or what they know. They have simply mastered their own personal abilities of controlling their emotions and realize their emotions will affect those around them. Therefore they know how to manage people well. They have mastered their ability to gain respect, confidence and co-operation from their constituents because they stay in full control, most of the time.
Remember we said, no one knows how to handle all situations, and for the most part, they do not, but some can master this more than others. We can know all their is to know about our profession but if we do not know how to relate to other individuals on the basis of care and consideration; we have missed the boat. When people look at how we react to any situation; they judge us. If we cry, they say we are weak. If we throw tantrums, we are unstable. If we are calm, cool, sincere and collected; we are named as being in control and someone who is in charge of who we are.
Having Emotional Intelligence, means that we pay attention and are able to spot other peoples needs, not just our own. Being in control gives one power. Power to listent to what is being said, not just by words, but in actions as well. Some people who have not yet gained their personal worth, may feel inadequate about speaking out about how they feel about an issue. Their actions actually protray what they do not say; some times. In other words; a person who is quiet all the time, never voices their opinion is usually self conscious. That does not mean they do not have a worthy opinion, but it can means they do not feel comfortable in the crowd they are in to voice it. The Emotionally Intelligent Manager, can spot this and bring out that knowledge that is locked up and help both the company and the employee.
This is real leadership and not just management. Being emotionally intelligent is growing in all facets of emloyment.